The Bright Side of ADHD.
With everything that’s been going on, sometimes it is difficult to be positive about things. But I do try.
I am supposed to “Look on the Bright Side”.
Everyone says so, from family and friends, to books and articles, to TV shows spot-lighting ADHD. Everyone assures me that things will get better. Yes, yes, I know. Things will get better, he will learn to cope, I will learn to cope, his father will learn to cope, ….everyone will learn to cope. H will grow up to do amazing things, of that I am sure. But right now, at this very moment, we still have to live through it, feel it, and experience it, don’t we? Of course we do, that’s how we learn to cope and move on to better things.
There will be good days and bad days.
Of course there will. For everyone not just ADHDers. For me, a good day is waking up without a headache to a peaceful house, with no one screeching at the top of there lungs, that they’re huuuungry, and the don’t wanna go to schoooool, why can’t I just stay home with yooooou, and then locking themselves in there room while you try not to lose your temper, scream your head off or strangle the poor little angel. A bad day is waking up in panic because your 6 year old child is not curled up on the floor at the foot of your bed where you insists he sleeps at night, at least until the medication that is screwing up his thought process and self control is completely out of his system, so you know he hasn’t slipped out a window in the wee hours of the morning. A good day is when your child gets so hyper-focused on a good thing like earning a single piece of paper to practice his new found obsession and talent for making paper hats instead of being hyper focused on collecting bugs in his room to study and sneaking food under his pillow to feed them with so they will trust him and live in his room forever. A bad day is getting a phone call from the school saying that they are very concerned for his safety as well as others because while working on his first grade journal, the blank in this sentence “This is me in June, this summer I __________” was completed with “will kill my Mom and Dad” and drew two gravestones (…and people wonder why I have such a problem with the media and the depiction of weapons and violence as a normal everyday occurrence) . A good day is friends,family, acquaintances, etc.. rallying around you with support, advice, and wishes for better days. A bad day is friends, family, acquaintances, etc..telling you what you should be doing instead of what you are doing because they assume you haven’t looked into everything possible or that you aren’t doing it right. (okay, okay that last one wasn’t fair, I know, I really do know, everyone is very well intentioned with their advice and I do welcome it on the good days, but sometimes when you already feel beat down by life and what is going on at the moment it can feel more like criticism than well meaning advice.) A good day is realizing that there will be good days and bad days.
So in the spirit of having a good day I plan to find the bright side of things everyday.
Today’ s “Bright Side of the Day”, and it’s still early mind you, is Leon’s ADHD maybe helping me lose weight. With all the issues he’s been having they don’t want him riding the school bus, and since I have been without a car for about two weeks now, I have to walk him to and from school everyday. That’s gotta count for some burned up calories, right!