Another piece to the puzzle that is Leon
I just read Penny William’s post another upside of ADHD in her blog “A Mom’s View of ADHD“. And it put a tear in my eye. (I suggest you check out her blog, it is very well written and full of thoughtful insight!)
It truely is so wonderful to find other parents out there who are going through simular experiances that I am. Sharing the good and the bad whether I am reading about them or writing about them is very healing for me. But aside from that, it can also be very exciting when you learn something new that you did not know before.
In her post she explains how children like ours really have a NEED to hug. More specifically deep pressure hugging (providing proprioceptive input). It prompted me to researh proprioceptive input because up till now I had never heard of it. I found the following very informative articles:
This is just another piece to the puzzle that is Leon. And this piece fits well. The first article practically describes Leon to a tee. And now I know why Leon hugs the way he does. His hugs are more like attacks. There is usually a running start involved and a full body collision followed by a really tight SQUEEZE (or headlock depending on where his arms land). We often have to shout out “slow, soft, gentle.” And the hug isn’t over till he gets a really tight squeeze in return.
Before bed time he begs us to get in bed with him for a cuddle. We don’t always oblige because , well life gets in the way, it gets late, and heck, it’s past his bedtime. On the nights we do oblige, he will ask me to hold him real tight with my whole body. Which of course I would do, I wrap my arms and my legs around him and I hold him tight. I just thought it was cute, now I know it is so much more than that. And you can be sure I won’t be turning him away anymore.
Just last night, while he lay snuggled up tightly in my arms, I remember thinking how wonderful it felt to hold my baby boy who was growing up way too fast, and wondering for how much longer these cherishe moments would last. He is after all 6 years old going on 30. Now I am a bit more hopeful. It may be a while before I have to give up my cuddles with my baby boy.
Penny is right when she writes that this is just another one of those wonderful gifts that comes with ADHD.